2018. április 13., péntek
"And They Understood"
"And when they saw him, they were astonished; and his mother said unto him, Son, why hast thou thus dealt with us? behold, thy father and I sought thee sorrowing. And he said unto them, How is it that ye sought me? knew ye not that I must be in my Father’s house? And they understood not the saying which he spake unto them."
Luke 2: 48-50
American Standard Version
Words can have a lot of different meanings.
What we say and what we actually think and mean can be completely different things.
What people actually say is the tip of the iceberg.
Hence the saying, when you know someone really well, you understand that what is not said with words. You don't need words, you understand everything perfectly well.
We don't know that well all the people with whom we get to meet. So it is important to try and understand other people. Try and understand what they don't say. It is no easy task.
Once you succeed in doing it most of the time (perfection exists only in two places: cheesy romance novels and in the rigid school system), you'll have a much easier life.
Just try one simple exercise, when someone who is not close to you (albeit it works with family members, too) says something. Translate the message to yourself using this magic sentence: "In other words it means: ...". Beware though that this is not a "cure-all-panacea". Some people are just really hard to understand. Or you just don't click. Or anything else.
Still, this magic sentence will help you most of the time when you feel that you don't understand what is being said.
This will make it easier to understand what people want to say. Not that they want to hide anything or want to purposefully hurt you, no, they just can't find the right words.
Few peeople are really good at conveying what they really want to say.
Communication is one of the most difficult things we humans do. And it is tricky because it seems so easy. It is not.
But from now on, it is going to be easier for you. Think of this simple exercise and a lot of times it will help you to understand other humans better.
Look on the bright side, what you will understand when you decipher the real meaning of what another person wants to say, a whole new world will open up to you. You'll be able to better understand the people you come in contact with, your connection with people will be better.