2018. április 12., csütörtök
"The Tree of Life, Which Is in the Paradise of God"
"He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith to the churches. To him that overcometh, to him will I give to eat of the tree of life, which is in the Paradise of God."
American Standard Version
It takes patience and perseverance to understand what is important to hear and what is not.
Listening is an underrated skill. Too many times when we are in a conversation, we are caught up in what we want to say. We have no or little patience for other people's messages.
We just wait reluctantly until the other person finishes with their message and then we start what we want to say. Make no mistake, the other person does not listen either to what we have to say.
It's a curious thing, this listening skill. Why is it so undervalued in our society?
It might stem from the fact that the person who does not speak much is usually considered not too bright. Successful people are usually considered to be the ones who speak often and eloquently.
There is one little known fact: really successful people learn to listen. Listening efficiently and well.
The listen especially to hidden messages, things the other person does not want to say.
And these people usually catch those rare social occasions when another person really speaks his/her mind.
If we want to understand the world and have a great life for ourselves, one of the most important skills is the skill of active listening. Listening for what motivates the other person, what makes them tick, what is important to them, who they actually are. And then we can connect with that other person. These are real connections.
Listening for the Spirit, listening for what is important and cannot be seen.
Just try it, today. When you speak with another person, focus on what they are saying, what they mean by their words and what message they want to convey. Don't think about your answer when they are speaking. Just listen to the other person and try to connect with their soul. Chances are, your answer will be more to the point, the other person will like the conversation much better and you'll have more fun.
Listening is a hidden gem. It does not take much to practice it. Listening is the key to other people.